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May 12, 2007

Why You Need To Learn Lucid Dreaming Part III

Posted in: dreaming,dreaming techniques,why you need to learn lucid dreaming

So far we’ve discussed using lucid dreaming to give you more time/help you absorb information and how to get ahead at work or school. Today, I’ll be discussing uses for dreaming in relationships. Not limited to romantic relationships, but any interaction you have between you and somebody else.

Let’s start with a story, shall we? Let’s go back to the office example I used earlier. This time, you’ve worked for a company for a long time, have been a faithful and hardworking employee, and haven’t made any major mistakes. You’ve languished under the clock from 8 to 5 for a great while now, and you’re thinking that it’s about time for a raise. You really deserve it, management’s been pinching pennies lately, and you think it’s time for them to stop imitating scrooge. The only problem: You’re not really sure how to actually ask for a raise. You’ve thought about it, and you’re not really sure how your boss will react, but you pull together the guts and go for it. You walk into your boss’s office, and, rather nervously, ask for a raise. Your boss shoots you down with : We don’t have the money right now. You’d better get back to work. Rather dejected, and now disheartened by the likely probability that your raise will probably be delayed much longer now, you walk back to your office and look out of your window. You sit and watch the window cleaners squeegee the windows for a while, and then go back to work.

Now let’s see what you could have used lucid dreaming for in this situation:

While dreaming, you have access to your subconscious, which knows a lot about your life and your world. It also knows the people you interact with. You can, while dreaming, ask your subconscious to make the most realistic and lifelike version of __________. (for this example we’ll use your boss) You then have a very good imitation of your boss in the dream with you. There are many directions you could go from here. You could become your boss, by whichever mean you prefer, it doesn’t really matter as long as your subconscious understands that you are now playing the role of your boss, and experience the same emotions they do. You could then have a dream version of you come and ask you if they can have a raise. Make sure to analyze your feelings and reactions as the boss. Have your dream self re-enact this with different approaches, and see which one seems best to you as the boss. This may be a little to abstract or flat out weird for some, so if you’d prefer, you could just ask your boss in a candid manner about a raise and what you’d have to ask to get it. Both methods give you insight into you another person’s perspective on things.

Now that you’ve thoroughly examined your boss’s viewpoint, why not scrutinize yours? You can examine different aspects of your personality through your subconscious in the same manner you examined your boss. Ask your subconscious to show all of the different sides of your personality in a house of mirrors, for example. Or maybe have them show up as people. You can use this to see what you really think about that raise. Why not ask paranoia what they think, or confidence? Using this tool, you can also examine why something is bothering you, or why you’ve been depressed lately. Maybe you see that you actually think you don’t deserve the raise, or think that somebody else deserves it more. This gives you great insight into yourself.

Now that you’ve got more information about your boss’s feelings and your own, you have one thing left to do to make sure you don’t botch the raise. Using your subconscious to set up the environment and people, you can practice any situation you want, as many times as you want. Try and re-create your boss’s office, and then put your boss in it. Then you can walk in and see from your point of view exactly how the boss reacts to those various approaches you found out earlier. While you’re at it, why not practice asking that co-worker out for coffee? You can practice any situation to give you confidence. Have a presentation coming up soon? Practice it!

So let’s see how this works out after you’ve prepared in dream time:

You have, after examining the boss, noticed that there isn’t actually any really good to ask. You simply couldn’t find any approach to make him budge. So you decided to practice asking him why raises have been so scarce for the workers lately. You walk into his office and, in the manner you practiced, ask about the budget. He starts pulling his hair, and mentions something about the CEO and lawsuits, and then asks you to leave. Oh, you think walking back to your office, I guess this really isn’t a good time to ask for a raise. When you get back, you see an email from a fellow co-worker warning you to avoid the boss today, he’s in one of those moods. You make a mental note to check your work email before doing anything with the higher0-ups next time.

Remember that this example is quite specific, and that you can use the methods of viewing a situation from someone else’s view, exploring your own opinions, and practicing a situation to many ends. You can use it for romantic relationships, asking somebody out, seeing why a friend is depressed, or virtually anything involving you and another person.

In Part IV of the series, I’ll discuss improving your physical coordination in dreams. (practicing for sports, martial arts, and the like.)

-Hatter

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